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# Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, And Unapologetically Being Yourself

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Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, And Unapologetically Being Yourself [Gazipura, Dr Aziz] on desertcart.com. *FREE* shipping on qualifying offers. Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, And Unapologetically Being Yourself

Review: Excellent Book on Boundaries - I've read all 3 of Aziz Gazipura's books and they're the best books out there for explaining the concept of boundaries and how they relate to different problems - social anxiety, confidence, and now people pleasing. The second half of this book is gold in my opinion. The concept of interpersonal boundaries is extremely important and there are a ton of authors out there that've tried to explain what it is - Henry Cloud, Mark Manson, etc. Bowen Family Systems theory uses the opposing concepts of Self-Differentiation and Fusion to explain good and bad relationship boundaries. Insecure Attachment Styles and Fantasy Bonds are basically the dynamics of bad boundaries as well. But nobody has done a better job of explaining boundaries and the thought processes involved in reinforcing good or bad boundaries than Gazipura. It's not just an academic treatment; it's easily actionable. And regarding how bad boundaries contributes to people pleasing, there's a reason Robert Glover's No More Mr Nice Guy is a popular Men's Book. This book is along the lines of Glover's book, with maybe a little less Freudian psychology / focus on upbringing, but with more focus on tackling what's going on your head with these limiting beliefs and behaviors, why they're flawed, and what to do about them. The guy also has a really good speaking voice so if you buy the Audiobook, it's very easy to listen to.
Review: The push I needed to be more authentic; to be myself around anyone. - Love this book, read it last year and I think I'm gonna read it again this year. I still use the affirmations taught in this book, as well as some of the personal rights that apply to me. People can tell when someone isn't being authentic and it's uncomfortable being around a people pleaser. I was reading this book while at a remote job site and I began to notice myself trying to be a people pleaser, playing "nice" instead of being authentic, and I noticed other people doing it as well and it always created awkward situations. This book gave me the confidence to be more authentic while still being positive; to express myself while still respecting others, and that definitely created less awkward situations for me. I change the subject and end conversations when I want now and I do it all without feeling unnecessary guilt. It taught me not to replay conversations in my head wondering if I said something I shouldn't have said(a sign you're a people pleaser), as well as many other things. How? By helping me realize that I wasn't being myself in so many situations, then helping me SET my personal rights and boundaries so that I may start being authentic and continue to become better at being authentic. There's a huge sense of freedom when being authentic. So if you're tired of playing "nice" and ready to start feeling free, then this book is for you!

## Technical Specifications

| Specification | Value |
|---------------|-------|
| Best Sellers Rank | #14,098 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) #107 in Interpersonal Relations (Books) #123 in Self-Esteem (Books) |
| Customer Reviews | 4.5 4.5 out of 5 stars (2,610) |
| Dimensions  | 6 x 1.26 x 9 inches |
| Edition  | Illustrated |
| ISBN-10  | 098897987X |
| ISBN-13  | 978-0988979871 |
| Item Weight  | 1.61 pounds |
| Language  | English |
| Print length  | 504 pages |
| Publication date  | October 17, 2017 |
| Publisher  | Center For Social Confidence, The |

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## Customer Reviews

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Excellent Book on Boundaries
*by J***A on December 28, 2017*

I've read all 3 of Aziz Gazipura's books and they're the best books out there for explaining the concept of boundaries and how they relate to different problems - social anxiety, confidence, and now people pleasing. The second half of this book is gold in my opinion. The concept of interpersonal boundaries is extremely important and there are a ton of authors out there that've tried to explain what it is - Henry Cloud, Mark Manson, etc. Bowen Family Systems theory uses the opposing concepts of Self-Differentiation and Fusion to explain good and bad relationship boundaries. Insecure Attachment Styles and Fantasy Bonds are basically the dynamics of bad boundaries as well. But nobody has done a better job of explaining boundaries and the thought processes involved in reinforcing good or bad boundaries than Gazipura. It's not just an academic treatment; it's easily actionable. And regarding how bad boundaries contributes to people pleasing, there's a reason Robert Glover's No More Mr Nice Guy is a popular Men's Book. This book is along the lines of Glover's book, with maybe a little less Freudian psychology / focus on upbringing, but with more focus on tackling what's going on your head with these limiting beliefs and behaviors, why they're flawed, and what to do about them. The guy also has a really good speaking voice so if you buy the Audiobook, it's very easy to listen to.

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ The push I needed to be more authentic; to be myself around anyone.
*by O***1 on May 17, 2022*

Love this book, read it last year and I think I'm gonna read it again this year. I still use the affirmations taught in this book, as well as some of the personal rights that apply to me. People can tell when someone isn't being authentic and it's uncomfortable being around a people pleaser. I was reading this book while at a remote job site and I began to notice myself trying to be a people pleaser, playing "nice" instead of being authentic, and I noticed other people doing it as well and it always created awkward situations. This book gave me the confidence to be more authentic while still being positive; to express myself while still respecting others, and that definitely created less awkward situations for me. I change the subject and end conversations when I want now and I do it all without feeling unnecessary guilt. It taught me not to replay conversations in my head wondering if I said something I shouldn't have said(a sign you're a people pleaser), as well as many other things. How? By helping me realize that I wasn't being myself in so many situations, then helping me SET my personal rights and boundaries so that I may start being authentic and continue to become better at being authentic. There's a huge sense of freedom when being authentic. So if you're tired of playing "nice" and ready to start feeling free, then this book is for you!

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐ Could have used the first half of book decades ago
*by H***R on March 26, 2022*

I'm in my late 50s and just discovered this book. Wow, I could have used this book 40 years ago! But, I'm enthused to benefit from this valuable information and practical advice for the next 40 years. Although I can't relate to everything about being too nice, there are many areas where I can and am already applying what I've learned. That said, I like the first half of the book better than the rest. The second half is a bit verbose and often difficult to relate to. Overall, great book, but could have been written in less than 300 pages.

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