Healing from Infidelity: The Divorce Busting® Guide to Rebuilding Your Marriage After an Affair Paperback – January 27, 2017

The toll that an affair takes on a marriage is often incalculable. And we live in a society where so many people believe an affair must mean the relationship has to end. But the truth is that truly healing from infidelity can bring a couple closer than they have ever been.An affair is not a death sentence for a relationship. It is more like an emotional car accident that puts the relationship in intensive care and this book is the guide to get the relationship back to a state of health and recovery.As a Marriage Life Coach, I have seen up close the hurt and pain that the aftermath of discovering an affair can bring and this book is one of the tools I use to complement the work we do in coaching. My bias is towards what works and the recommendations Michele makes using over 40 years of experience, in the trenches with couples WORK.When you are looking for a book on this topic you probably aren't thinking as clearly as you would during other chapters of your life, so having Michele as your wise guide through the process will help you think about your relationship and your future differently.If you are recovering from an affair or looking to help a friend who is, you cannot go wrong reading and implementing the ideas in this book.

Wow. I just read Michele’s book. If a major earthquake has shaken your marriage to the core, I swear to you, Michele’s book is the ONLY book you will need to find your way towards healing and rebuilding. Her approach is a no-nonsense solution-focused guide that reveals her uncanny wisdom, insight, compassion, and seasoned empathic ability to assess and validate the struggles of both partners, while getting to the “how-to” clearly and quickly. After reading the first chapter you will be convinced that Michele is the consummate authority in the area of working with couples in crisis. She gets involved quickly, and with surgical precision, gets to the heart of the matters and offers the beacon of hope that is desperately needed in this time when things seem the darkest. I am a therapist and I can say I wish I had this book 30 years ago. Reading this book will help me become more effective with clients, and I most certainly will assign this book to them as required reading. David L Johns LMHC

This was the first book that I read after discovery. I thought it was a good positive book, but my ex wife felt like it really didn't address the partner's trauma enough, so I read other books as well like Betrayal Bind and Help Her Heal and like 15 others as well. However, at the end of the day, she just didn't want to try, so it didn't work out. It's kind of a shame because divorce sucks and there's no real reason to go through it there's the will to put in the work.The good news is now I'm in a new relationship with someone who actually wants to be in a relationship with me. I really think reading all these relationship books over the past 2 years has really helped me to figure out what I wanted from a partner. I appreciate all these authors who have written about this difficult topic and who are devoted to healing relationships.

The author presents a clear, concise and logical path toward reconciliation after the discovery of an affair. Her positions are experience and data-driven. I’ve read numerous books on the topic (I.e “The Courage to Stay”) and several texts she uses as references (such as Gottman’s “7 Principles”) - each of these corroborates her viewpoints. I read this book around one month after my wife disclosed an affair. In conjunction with much work on both of our ends, this book has been a tremendous resource. A must read for any betrayed spouse.

This book is a must read for any type of betrayal in a relationship! While the book focuses on affairs specifically, the concepts could apply to any type of betrayal in a relationship. My husband and I both read this book. We appreciated that it validated both our points of view while also helping us understand things from each other‘s point of view. We had so many wonderful discussions, and it really helped us get back on the same page and in an even better place than before. If you’re on the fence, just buy it!

The part I loved about this book is that it doesn't take sides, and it gives you practical step by step methods for working by yourselves and together to rebuild. It hits the nail on the head with all the emotions both sides are going through and how to work through them without causing more damage. It gives credit to all arguments, gives great suggestions for tough scenarios, and really helps all parties involved see the full spectrum so that progress can be made. It's very obvious she has thorough experience in this area.Multiple weeks of expensive local counseling didn't even break the surface of what this very inexpensive book covered, and the progress after starting was leaps and bounds. I'm thankful to have found it and finally got substantial guidance and validation on a very difficult topic. If you need some help, give this a shot.

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No matter which side you are on, the betrayer or the betrayed, Michele understands. My wife and I both had affairs. She came clean with her 4 weeks after she found out about mine. We both read the book twice, each time from the other perspective. It was life changing and marriage saving. By the time we met with Michele, the author, we had already made leaps and bounds towards recovery! We have never been closer in our 15 year relationship! Thank you Michele. Your teachings work!