It's Not You, It's Me

I'm not usually a self-help book person (not because I don't need it, but because there are so many daunting options!), but this book provided me more. The book shares insights and tools that I think allow the reader to become a better (and happier) human.Camilla's perspective is comforting; having been through serious life challenges, she "walks the walk" and understands that self-reflection / realization / work isn't easy, but can be so rewarding. The tone is not preachy at all, rather a warm friend sharing the benefit of her knowledge.The meditations, affirmations and worksheet tools are bonuses in the sense that you can come back to them over and over again.I recommend this book for all of the reasons above and for its' accessible (and not overwhelming) style. One note: I read the physical book, but having heard Camilla's soothing voice in the meditation exercises, I think the Audible version would be amazing.

If you are looking for yourself, don't know what or where you want to go in life and you are desperate for support to find your focus again. To find yourself again. Then you should take this book line by line into yourself and allow it to change your life forever. Already the predecessor "reinvent me" triggered changes in me for which I could not be more grateful. "Its not you its me" shows me personally how much self-love is already inside me, how much more positive and self-confident I am already going through life. This book can turn negative thoughts into positive ones, change your view on many things and be a guide to a more positive life, which is about you personally ❤️

I am completely bowled over by this book! It was as though the author was talking to me, as though she knew exactly how I felt and where I wanted to be. It’s written in such a readable format, that you don’t feel as though you’re turning page after page to get to the point of what the author is trying to convey. It’s to the point, functional, honest and it’s also quite a relaxing read.It’s really evident throughout the book that the author absolutely knows what she is talking about. It’s as though she’s saying ‘I’ve been there, you are going to be ok’. From the get go the book had my full attention the examples used throughout really engage the reader and totally made me think YES that’s exactly how I feel and ‘oh it’s not just me’ and ‘wow I can actually do something about this’.There are activities throughout the book that are fairly simple (I’m all for simple!) but really effective they really make you reflect on yourself. There’s a section on reframing which taught me some tools that I could, and did, use the very next day.There are also free online meditations that come along with the book which I wasn’t aware of when I bought it and although I am not the best meditator (busy brain etc) the book showed me a few simple ways in which I could sort of bring my focus back. I think I’ll be re doing the meditations over and over to get better at it! The book actually says to acknowledge your thoughts but not to dwell on them and then continue with the meditation. I really hope I can crack the meditation side of things and develop the ability to get in to a meditative state.All in all this book for me is wonderful and if you’re reading this and wondering whether to buy It or not then I hope if you do buy it that you get as much from it as I do! I felt like the author was sharing her findings and secret tips with me that aren’t wildly unrealistic but are very much focused on the everyday and being the best version of ourselves xx

What a comforting journey into self-love. This book is the perfect blend of story-telling, inspiration, meditation, and real, actionable tools for creating a loving relationship with yourself.Self-acceptance is an ongoing process, and is the foundation for most of our relationships. Camilla beautifully lays out a framework for going inward and healing the parts of ourselves that could be shaping the way we function in the world.I will come back to this book again and again; anytime I need a self-love reset.

Camilla's "It's Not You, It's Me" is an absolute must-read for anyone wanting to find peace in their relationships with others and, most importantly, in the relationship with themselves. The world would be a better place if everyone had the opportunity to work on their healing and growth, using the invaluable tools and tips which Camilla shares in this book.Through the four vital parts of Self-Awareness, Self-Acceptance, Self-care and Self-love and the simple yet highly effective exercises, Camilla provides us with uncomplicated, evidence-based ways to break old patterns that hold us back and gently guides us to dive deeper into our self-understanding and to create new daily habits that serve us better.Camilla's care and passion to genuinely help people heal and improve their relationships and well-being shine through on every page, and the wonderful, extremely accessible accompanying meditations provide an all-important additional support in the healing journey.This really is a book that will become an integral part of your self-help toolkit and I would highly recommend for everyone!